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The Work of Love: Relationships, Like Cars, Require Maintenance
You don’t want to find yourself in the Divorce Court before you discover that your partner has been feeling unfulfilled with you for a long time.
In romantic movies, there’s often a common theme: guy and gal meet, fall in love, experience some kind of disconnect in their relationship, but finally discover they really love each other. Then: lights up, show over. We are left to assume that it’s “happy-ever-after.”
That’s fantasy. In the real world, the relationship is just getting started after the honeymoon period wears off. That is when the real work of a relationship begins. The work begins with taking on responsibility, having goodwill, and employing focused attention. With the dedication to make your relationship blossom, a deeper form of love can begin to manifest.
Great relationships take work…care-filled, ongoing attention. It’s like the way you need to treat your car. You don’t neglect your automobile and assume it will go on forever after. No. If you want a smooth-running car that will last a long time, you listen for unusual sounds from the engine, keep your eyes on the gauges, change oil, add coolant, check tire pressure. You dust and…
