Unraveling Pain and People
Let’s go deep into the ocean of pain and origination.
These past couple of months have been a surprise to me. I have reconnected with a person who I thought was toxic. This was not in alignment with who I was. As a survivor of the mean streets of pain, I was a very visceral person and would cut off an infected arm or limb, instead of loving it back to health. It is a strong approach, especially when chronic illness has been such a constant companion. You would suppose that self-love would have been a mandatory staple on the plate.
I believe that pain manifests in the body…that it can sometimes be stored.
I believe that we are all walking miracles and the only limitations we face are those that we inflict upon ourselves. In this human realm, people suffer from human behaviors, of believing their perception is right, and in large part, this comes from the need to want to protect and defend themselves, which can turn into a whole other toxic manifestation.
I read a meme not long ago that spurred a different sort of thinking. In my life, I have said fairly clearly: “This person causes pain and so I will cut them out.” And I believed this was all I needed to do. Very staunchly, not allow them closer to hurt me again. I am still a big fan of the adage: “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” Because there is some truth to that. We can’t be blind when it comes to the emotional place where a person lives. If we receive pain from that person, we must seek protection.
But let’s go deeper. Into the ocean of pain and origination.
What does this person INTEND when they react? Likely, it is to defend themselves, to respond in such a way that they will feel more comfortable and less threatened. They do not live in perfect love for themselves and this is a category we all aspire to live in, the truthful understanding that we all deserve love. When a person strikes out or responds in anger, the pain associated with that person is not that person. The pain stems from their behavior and actions. To think otherwise is to rob them of the ability to be anything BUT pain. To rob them, in our eyes of ever being worthy. And that is pain personified. Even if it is not…
